Thurmanation Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 I like coming here for help cause i usually get back genuine answers from a range of people with a third party perspective. Except for the odd douche i don't have a problem asking for advice and i hope you older guys(bad choice of words ) who have been in this situation or something close can help a brother out.So the same girl ive had for the past 7 months got a new job and moved back home (an hour away from where i was). After a month i was talking to her regularly and everything was going well. Two weeks back maybe more the calls stop but she had told me she found a new job that had her working from 10 till 10. She said she needed the money so she couldn't not take it and i understood that. Now im sitting here 3 weeks later and she rarely calls me and when i do call her she says shes busy and she will call me back which she also rarely does. I cant see her at night cause she says shes too tired form work all day and on the weekends she says she has her family she has to see so she cant see me then either. Im on the verge of breaking up with her just due to the fact i don't see her or talk to her and she doesn't seem to have a problem with it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 Dude, she moved away, she "says" she works 12 hours a day, she's to tired to talk after work, and to busy on the weekends with other people.She already broke up with you and just never told you. End it already !!!If people care about each other, they make time for each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ickey44 Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 Well, even though she's really busy, she should still be making time for you. People make time for things that are important to them. It sounds to me like she doesn't feel you're important enough to make time for. I would just move on, especially since she doesn't seem to care if you break up with her. I don't see the point in putting any more effort in the relationship if that's the way she feels. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 Here's a simple question to help you make the decision. Ready ??Does the relationship currently make you happy ?? If the answer is no, end it. It's really that simple. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
semiotter Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 Dude that just the way things work out sometimes. Be glad it happened early and not after you really got serious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gregstephens Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 Yeah, you may need to call Joey Greco at 'Cheaters'. Kinda sounds like she may have already moved on. If you really want to continue the relationship, maybe ask her if she has indeed started seeing other people. Might answer the question right there. If she hasn't, then just ask her where she sees this ship going. If she doesn't even time to talk about that, tell her where the ship is going--sayonara! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thurmanation Posted June 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Yeah, you may need to call Joey Greco at 'Cheaters'. Kinda sounds like she may have already moved on. If you really want to continue the relationship, maybe ask her if she has indeed started seeing other people. Might answer the question right there. If she hasn't, then just ask her where she sees this ship going. If she doesn't even time to talk about that, tell her where the ship is going--sayonara!I agree with all of you about the cheating factor, which was why i did it in the first place, but she is close with my cousin and he called me up after i had talked to her and he let me know she wants to be with me shes just going about trying to fix this the wrong way. I agree with it and i did call her and told her if nothing changes then im moving on and she said ok and i haven't talked to her since. She says she just wants it to be a break she doesn't want to lose me and all this sob crap aswell the last time i spoke with her.Its just a s**tty situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gregstephens Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Yeah, you may need to call Joey Greco at 'Cheaters'. Kinda sounds like she may have already moved on. If you really want to continue the relationship, maybe ask her if she has indeed started seeing other people. Might answer the question right there. If she hasn't, then just ask her where she sees this ship going. If she doesn't even time to talk about that, tell her where the ship is going--sayonara!I agree with all of you about the cheating factor, which was why i did it in the first place, but she is close with my cousin and he called me up after i had talked to her and he let me know she wants to be with me shes just going about trying to fix this the wrong way. I agree with it and i did call her and told her if nothing changes then im moving on and she said ok and i haven't talked to her since. She says she just wants it to be a break she doesn't want to lose me and all this sob crap aswell the last time i spoke with her.Its just a s**tty situation.Well, I hate to go cliche here, and I know I'm going to get razzed for 'girlie-ing' this up, but maybe there is something to the whole "if you love something, set it free. If it doesn't return, it was never meant to be."Yeah, I know that was sappy as soon as it rolled off my fingers.Anyway, I wish the best for you, man. Those crossroads in a relationship do suck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
COB Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 She says she just wants it to be a break she doesn't want to lose me and all this sob crap aswell the last time i spoke with her.Oh, so you don't get to see her, touch her, or talk to her. But you're on call for her anytime she decides she's ready for... well, whatever use she might have for you? Dude, she's just trying to use you as her emotional tampon until she can break it off. And since she hasn't done it yet, I'd say she's one of those folks who can't do it until she your replacement in place. Total bulls**t, you're just letting yourself get used. Try to get her in the sack one last time, then dump her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gregstephens Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 She says she just wants it to be a break she doesn't want to lose me and all this sob crap aswell the last time i spoke with her.Oh, so you don't get to see her, touch her, or talk to her. But you're on call for her anytime she decides she's ready for... well, whatever use she might have for you? Dude, she's just trying to use you as her emotional tampon until she can break it off. And since she hasn't done it yet, I'd say she's one of those folks who can't do it until she your replacement in place. Total bulls**t, you're just letting yourself get used. Try to get her in the sack one last time, then dump her.COB...keepin' it real and tellin' like it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Well, I hate to go cliche here, and I know I'm going to get razzed for 'girlie-ing' this up, but maybe there is something to the whole "if you love something, set it free. If it doesn't return, it was never meant to be."First, I thought it was, "If you love something, set it free. If it doesn't return, hunt it down and KILL it !!!"Second, Jungle I concur with COB here. Don't be her b*tch. That is a bad road to travel down and you will repeat it again in future relationships. Just move on and find someone who actually gives a sh*t about you, because she doesn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gregstephens Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Well, I hate to go cliche here, and I know I'm going to get razzed for 'girlie-ing' this up, but maybe there is something to the whole "if you love something, set it free. If it doesn't return, it was never meant to be."First, I thought it was, "If you love something, set it free. If it doesn't return, hunt it down and KILL it !!!"Second, Jungle I concur with COB here. Don't be her b*tch. That is a bad road to travel down and you will repeat it again in future relationships. Just move on and find someone who actually gives a sh*t about you, because she doesn't.Alright, I'll say it..."Man law!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Or as I said in the other thread Jungle, DON'T BE HER PUNCHING BAG !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thurmanation Posted June 24, 2009 Author Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Or as I said in the other thread Jungle, DON'T BE HER PUNCHING BAG !!!You guys are right, and COB your the man like i said before any fan of VJ's is a friend of mine so i take what you said heavily.I also did break it off with her so lets just hope i can keep myself from having the urge to talk to her. This is the part of relationships i hate, i gotta start screening my women more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Or as I said in the other thread Jungle, DON'T BE HER PUNCHING BAG !!!You guys are right, and COB your the man like i said before any fan of VJ's is a friend of mine so i take what you said heavily.I also did break it off with her so lets just hope i can keep myself from having the urge to talk to her. This is the part of relationships i hate, i gotta start screening my women more.Oh that's the easy part... See, you are of drinking age and there are these things called "BARS" and in these "BARS" other women come and drink heavily. Even if you aren't the drinking, clubbing type of guy, this makes for some really good distraction !!! If not that, internet porn is always a good distraction as well !!! Good luck and DON'T LOOK BACK... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TJJackson Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 There's porn on the internet?where? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArmyBengal Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 There's porn on the internet?where?To funny... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearcat1975 Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Agreed with everyone else here.Too many other fish in the sea. Move on and don't look back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ickey44 Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 Good for you. You'll find someone out there who will treat you a lot better than she was. Relationships just don't work with only one person in them... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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